The one where I mistakenly let Instagram make me feel bad about my body…

​As an Android user I was late to the Instagram party. Insta is fun, I enjoy it. I am not a designer, nor am I a photographer - but I have a blast with perspective, light and filters. Instagram has been the only social media I let my tween & young teen use because I believe it is relatively safe. I follow nearly all of the National Parks, my friends and colleagues, celebrities I like, tons of animals, poets that speak to me, and a hand full of makeup and fashion people/companies. 

I’m a pretty happy camper so long as I stay in my own feed. Images of things and people that interest me in an endless stream. 

I made an interesting observation recently. It was the 2nd or 3rd time in a week that I was exploring the “feed of everything” – looking for content for my other work, fun things to share with my friends when I noticed how poorly I was feeling about myself. Each time the feed was full of young women with very little clothing on. (Note: I have no problem with nudity and I love the human body.) Perfectly shot, perfectly lit, perfectly perfect abs and asses. Really, really beautiful people. Them= perfect, me= not even close. I was allowing my Compare Button to get pushed.

So I began thinking on this. Why was I allowing this content to make me feel so shabby? I have always been reasonably confident in my own skin. But I could not escape the imagery that ran like a loop through my head. Perfect, pert, perky, hard, and toned bodies. 

The hard truth is that even after losing nearly 120 pounds (in a little more than a year), even with very regular exercise my “in progress” body is a little messy. I have abs, but they lie beneath a fat pad and excess skin. I have seven, inch long scars where the laparoscopic instruments were inserted into my body.

The cool truth is that I’m totally devoted to my fitness. Most of the time I bring my A game because exercise makes my brain happy. I am only in competition with myself & I am constantly working to improve my strength and stamina. When Hermine (one of my amazing Barre instructors at Peace of Mind Pilates) places her hand on my back and tells me how lovely my form is, I do a little mental happy dance. When I’m making it rain with sweat I don’t give a shit about what my body looks like doing it. I’m a beast and I do amazing, ridiculously fucking insane things with my body. I am strong and determined.

​I am ashamed when I allow my Compare Button to get pushed because I work diligently to escape that mental combat. Measuring myself against another is totally absurd and I feel like a fool every time I sink into the muck of not good enoughness. 

I was not born perfect, I have lived imperfectly, I have made errors and mistakes. I have unintentionally hurt people I love. I have been hurt. I have been an asshole. I will screw up again.

I also know this…

I am simply, a sum of my parts. My successes, my mistakes, my touchdowns and my fumbles. This body is almost 40. It has given birth TWICE to healthy babies. It has climbed to the top of the rope in the school gymnasium & thrown people up into the air (caught them too).

I have expression lines. I have white hair. I am curious and creative. I have incredible stamina. I practice loving myself because modeling love and tolerance is my legacy to my children.

​I do ideas, I do kindness, I do empathy & compassion, I do humor, I do passion, I do hard work. 

Comparison is a waste of my time and drains my vitality.
I love myself. Truly.
I am enough.